No dumping, no spilling is one of the cardinal tenets of our practice. There is a time and place to present information and to open your feelings to another person, and there is a time to be contained. In general you are best served by conserving your energy and focusing your presentation before the person(s) capable of acting upon what you want (See Decision Makers). Let integrity be your guide.
The world is filled with people who jabber like parrots and use words as a mask. Such people will waste your treasure. How can you ever confide in them if they cannot contain themselves? Underneath there is a terrible need to reach out that will pull you down. Rarely is there an authentic voice behind the words.
No Dumping, No Spilling: No dumping, no spilling is very good practice. Track five times this week you paid attention to what information you revealed and asked yourself beforehand, "Do I really want this person to have this information? What am I assuming they will do with it?"
By not spilling or dumping you build the container so that when you decide to release, your presentation will have force and power.
Dumping and Spilling: Now compare these findings with five other occasions this week in which, helter-skelter, you breeched the container. Note what happens to "need," expectations, focus, and your ability to respond quickly and intelligently to change.
(See Principle of Trainability and Agents, Blockers and Scouts)
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